Ferrari Mailing List: Re: Ferrari Digest, Im writing a country song.

[ken rentiers (rentiers]

On Nov 26, 2007, at 8:27 PM, BRIGANDBAR [at] aol.com wrote:

> The immediacy of those  requirements may
> escape you now, but soon you will be faced with a judicial  system  
> that is
> punitively prejudiced against fathers in both custodial and   
> financial matters

What Steve said!

Texas is a community property state. She gets the property, you leave  
the community. When it's happening to you, you are not able make  
informed and objective decisions until long after the chips are  
already down. She may have obtained representation before she even  
called the movers. Protect yourself. Get the best damn lawyer you can  
afford. Do whatever he says.

An observation from the trenches: Once the dusts settles somewhat  
attorneys tend to drag things out for years as long as the checks  
keep flowing. Unless you enjoy  repetitive interrogatories and  
constantly producing your books for inspection it is far, far better  
to bite the bullet and settle than to go to trial. Trial is prolonged  
and expensive. My record was five years. You pay the bills for both  
sides.

When the nut-cutting comes, give  her more or less what property she  
wants and walk away. Fights will go on until the lawyers have  
everything, the child is grown and your business is reduced to ashes.  
You still have to make a  living, all she has to do is get divorced.   
If I could change one thing in my past I would have insisted on a  
prenup.

As far as the boy goes the courts will always side with the mother  
unless she can be shown to be unfit, which if she hasn't robbed any  
banks lately you are out of luck. It stinks but in the end that's how  
it always seems to come down.

Forget squabbling, or revenge, Your goal must be to put this behind  
you quickly and expeditiously, with minimum damage, and get on with  
your life. Unexpected separation and divorce is like a death in the  
family, you go through the five stages of grief. Meanwhile, take good  
care of yourself - we have all been there one way or another - it's  
just a part of the mysterious process called 'life'.

http://www.memorialhospital.org/library/general/stress-THE-3.html


ken